We may search for something which may mean a lot to us, but don’t realize that we’re searching in the wrong place. We always want to get something out of something and this is human nature. When we do not find it, we let ourselves to be miserable.
For instance, a child longing the love of a father. This is immensely heart-aching, but the child cannot comprehend that other things or people may be giving them abundant love and care, more than their own father could have. Sometimes we get so occupied and troubled about the things we could have had which we didn’t, that we are blinded. The things that are the most precious in our lives at that time means nothing in comparison to what we expect from other people, until we lose that too.
If we meet with an accident, why do we get so angry and aggressive on the one who caused it? I’m sure he didn’t mean to, who would want to be disgraced in front of people? We should teach ourselves to let go off certain things which makes us a bad person. Even if we were or weren’t injured, or even if our vehicle got a dent or scratch, we react in an extremely abrupt manner, which we shouldn't. Think of it like this, the worse could have happened, but didn’t, so be thankful. Be forgiving.
A gardener may sow a seed, water it with utmost love and take great care, like a baby. If the plant doesn’t grow flowers, he stills waters it every day. Not because he expects it to bloom someday, but instead continues to water the infertile plant, so that it could live longer. No matter whatever disabilities it may have. He cannot leave the plant to die, just because it couldn’t produce flowers. He understands that some plants are brave and strong while some are weak and fragile that they cannot gain strength and ability to reproduce, even if they wanted to.
We always expect the other person to understand us, this is a common belief within us that we forget to understand the same person. Instead of wanting others to understand us, we should give them the chance of being understood. In this way we can figure out and solve the matter in better way.
Stop expecting things from the one, who can offer you nothing. Look around, you may have plenty of things which could be more meaningful to you, than what you expected.